Contested divorces often take years to reach a resolution. In fact, couples are left in limbo while rack up on both sides. While the generally decide on temporary orders for issues that relate to , such as child support and custody, other issues are left unresolved until the divorce is finalized. In addition, children involved in contested divorces are also left in limbo, getting used to one arrangement in the midst of the possibility that the arrangement will change.
Temporary orders are fairly consistent with permanent decisions by the courts, but not always. In a contested divorce, couples are unable to resolve issues related to the divorce, such as alimony, custody, and distribution of debts and assets. In some cases, neither spouse will have access to certain assets until the divorce is granted and a resolution of all issues has been reached. In some instances, this makes some spouses unable to afford , granting an unfair advantage to the other spouse.
Couples involved in contested divorces, often cannot come to an agreement because of the many issues involved in the divorce. In fact, many couples get divorced because they suffer from a lack of communication in their relationship. If couples were unable to communicate when they were together, they will certainly be unable to do so during a divorce. Some contested divorces involve one spouse that does not wish to get divorced, and that spouse is therefore more likely to fight during the proceedings. In fact, spouses that do not wish to get divorced are likely to be very bitter, and they may wish to get revenge on the spouse who has opted to leave. These battles often involve children and all child related issues .
Couples involved in a contested divorce often find that they become angry with each other, placing a bigger wedge in their relationship. Often, that bitterness and resentment is felt by all family members. In fact, children may begin to place blame on one or both parents. Unfortunately, families that experience a contested divorce often find that they are not as close as they once were. In fact, parents sometimes try to turn their children against the other parent.
In general, contested divorces are detrimental to the health and well being of all involved parties. If families can reach a resolution in the absence of court intervention, they tend to adjust to all new changes in a much more effective manner, and they generally experience increased support form other family members.
Contested divorces often prolong the stress and heartache associated with the break up of any family. In fact, a contested divorce often leads to a family growing apart and feeling resentment towards each other. Spouses involved in this type of divorce often find it impossible to remain amicable and it is always better when couples can come to a mutual understanding about their divorce and all issues associated with it.