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3 Effective Steps to Getting Through the Divorce Process

3 Effective Steps to Getting Through the Divorce ProcessIt is generally assumed that a divorce is bound a very difficult time for the parties involved. The divorce process itself is time consuming, frustrating, and often times quite confusing. Aside from the legal aspects, divorce is bound to take a toll on the separating couple on both an emotional and mental level, which often times will lend to complicate the divorce process even further. When facing a divorce, there are certain things that are commonly advised in order to make the divorce process at least more bearable. However, one thing that should be expected is that during a divorce, difficult times will be ahead. The following are three steps which prove helpful in getting through the divorce process.

    1.    KEEP EMOTIONS UNDER CONTROL DURING THE DIVORCE PROCESS – Though it may seem as an inherently difficult notion to employ, emotions during the legal divorce process and involved proceedings are bound to not only complicate things, but certainly make the entire ordeal more taxing for both parties. It is important to try and keep all negative emotions toward the situation and the other spouse under control in order to focus on the legal divorce proceedings at hand. This particular aspect may prove to be extremely difficult for some, particularly if the divorce is the result of issues such as infidelity. However, keeping emotions out of divorce proceedings will be necessary in order to be able to establish the necessary parameters to conclude the proceedings. Furthermore, it is important to remain patient and control emotions, particularly when children are involved. Attempting to at least keep a respectful line of communication with the other spouse will prove to ease specific divorce procedures, such as alimony and child custody.

    2.    BE OPEN TO THE IDEA OF COUNSELING – Divorce is certainly a private and personal matter, and thus, it may seem difficult to discuss the specifics of a divorce with people other than close family members and friends. Though family and close friends can certainly provide for emotional and mental support during the divorce process, it often times may not be enough. Seeking professional counseling may help an individual find ways to to control emotions and his/her mental state during the divorce, which in turn will also benefit the divorce process itself. If professional counseling is out of the question, there are also divorce support groups that may seem more beneficial. These support groups include people that have gone through the process themselves, and thus, can provide for more insight as to how to cope with divorce.

    3.    BE HONEST WITH THE DIVORCE LAWYER OR ATTORNEY – Obtaining the services of divorce lawyer or attorney, though not absolutely necessary, may prove to be the best way to deal with the divorce process in the legal context. A divorce lawyer will often times act as a mediator in the divorce, being the main line of communication with the other spouse and his/her attorneys. Therefore, it is important to be completely honest with the divorce attorney. Providing all of the details of the separation as honestly as possible will make the legal divorce process much easier for all parties involved.

Benefits of the Mediation Process

Benefits of the Mediation Process

Despite the best of intentions, there are some ex-spouses that cannot get along with each other. If the parents can learn to set aside their differences for the sake of making the divorce transition as smooth as possible on the children, then it will benefit everyone involved. Sometimes, a family court will order a mediator to try to help the parents agree on visitation guidelines. For children, parent visitation time can keep a bond strong even though they no longer live with the non-custodial parent and the court considers that fact a priority.
Visitation guidelines can either be set up by the family court or set up by the parents. The visitation guidelines regarding parent visitation is then approved through the court. Mediators try to help the families with any conflict resolution that may surround a parent visitation schedule. If a couple refuses to cooperate with each other, they may be ordered to attend family counseling for the sake of the children. Legally, the family court does have a right to refer a family to a mediator and a family counseling service. If a parent does not follow the order, they are in contempt of court and can be prosecuted. 
The Family Law Act actually made it possible for mediators and counselors to help set visitation guidelines. Services are sometimes offered at no cost, unless a parent wishes to bring in an outside mediator that does not work for the family court. As the parent visitation scheduling court case is handled, the mediator has the job of working with both the courts and family at the same time. Legally, any communication that a family has with a mediator is not confidential. Conversations that a mediator and parents have about parent visitation times or visitation guidelines will be reported to the family court. These conversations can be submitted as evidence in he case. While a family counselor is bound legally not to repeat conversations, a mediator is not. 
There is only one exception to that rule. If a spouse is discussing a monetary divorce settlement with a mediator instead of parent visitation rights and schedules, then the mediator cannot discuss what was said in the meeting. However, there may be times when mediators are allowed to disclose small amounts of information if it affects visitation guidelines.
If the couple engaged in a parent visitation battle, allows a mediator to help them come to a resolution, they may be saving themselves a lot of trouble in the long run. A mediator may be able to help the parents reach an agreement that will benefit their child and themselves. An expensive custody battle does not benefit the parents or the child.

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