A couple who divorces must remember that they are divorcing each other and not their children. It may be difficult to have the patience and maintain an amicable relationship with with an ex-spouse, but one should always remember that the children will benefit from seeing their parents in a stable relationship, even if they are no longer a couple and legal visitation rights use that thought as a legal guideline.
If these issues are constant, and discussing them with an ex-spouse is not possible, then one may need to go to court in order to resolve the problem. Most parents have the visitation rights whether or not they choose to take advantage of them. While this can be extremely frustrating to the custodial parent, they still must put the child’s best interests first. The visitation with a non-custodial parent, even one who is lacking in parental skills, is usually still considered a benefit to the child. Custodial parents may feel differently about that, but they should still try to make the best of the situation, since the non-custodial parent still has legal visitation rights.
There are times when the non-custodial parent will use the visitation time with their child to spoil them and spend every day on an outing. Usually, this is done because of the guilt they feel for not being involved in their day-to-day lives. Custodial parents are often resentful of this since they have to deal with the average things like getting children ready for school and cooking them dinner, while their ex-spouse may take fun day trips to amusement parks or baseball games during the visitation. Yet, the custodial parent should try to understand the ex-spouse’s point of view; although visitation rights have made it generally easier for non-custodial parents to interact with their children, they still miss many things.
There are bound to be circumstances when one feels angry or frustrated by something their ex-spouse has done during the visitation with the children. Remaining patient and speaking with the ex-spouse may help to alleviate some of those feelings, yet if the behavior ceases to change, the family court may have to get involved to solve the dispute.