What if My Parents are Getting Divorced?
I want to know why my parents are getting divorced
You may not know why your parents are getting divorced, but there are several other things you should know. You may be telling yourself, “My parents are getting divorced and it’s probably my fault.” This is never the case. You may hear everyone tell you that the divorce is not your fault and think the phrase is overused, but in all actuality, the divorce is never your fault.
The reason your parents are getting divorced is because they can’t solve their problems anymore and want to keep your best intentions in mind. Your parents don’t want any more fighting to occur in the home, and even if you think the divorce is pulling everyone apart, know that the divorce is going to make things much better in the long run.
Will my life change while my parents are getting divorced, and after?
You should be prepared to face some changes while your parents are getting divorced and afterwards as well. Depending on your family’s circumstances, you may have to move, change schools, and spend time with both parents separately.
You should also know that your parents may not be around as much after the divorce. If a parent was at home during the marriage to take care of the home, they may have to get a job after the divorce in order to afford a new house and/or other expenses. Moreover, you and your family may not be able to afford things you used buy. Don’t let this bring you down, and do things around the house to help you parents out. If you help out, you’re parents will be able to plan and do more stuff with you.
What can I do to make the divorce easier?
There a number of things you can do to make things easier during and after the divorce.
1) Constantly remind your parents that you don’t want to be caught in the middle of any arguing. Remind your parents that you want all visiting arrangements and transitions to be peaceful.
2) You should be able to be with your parents and talk with them without hearing anything about jealousy, anger, or sadness. You can do things to help out yourself AND your parents by suggesting things like family counseling or similar things.
3) Keep in touch as much as you can. You may live with a parent more than the other, but parents will enjoy the fact that you’re keeping in touch, even if it’s a quick email, text, or phone call.
4) Find your strengths and interests as you start getting older. There’s going to come a time when the family situation calms down and things start returning to normal. You’ll start living your own life more and more, and soon you won’t even be living with your parents. Understand what strengths and weaknesses you have and which parent those attributes come from. You’ll learn lessons about yourself, and you’ll gain more and more respect for your parents.
